I never knew how true the proverb “It takes a village to raise a child” was until I became a parent. It’s even more so now that I am the parent to two little boys who are the exact same age. My three children—22-year-old Oliver and 5-year-old twins Jax and Jaid— are the center of my world. Being a parent is hard, and it’s a lot of work. It’s so tough and demanding and time-consuming that I would take help from a stranger off the street. Ha!
Recently, the twins told their kindergarten teacher that their mother doesn’t work. I have to admit that I was a bit taken aback, even a little bit hurt, when she told me that. I work hard for my family. I mean, don’t they remember hanging out with me on the set of “Franklin and Bash”? They were so excited for craft services and all the food they got to choose from! But their teacher, a very wise woman, said to me, “Be grateful. They don’t think you work because you’re always there for them.”
I’m blessed to have a wonderful support system that helps me make sure that Jax and Jaid are always looked after, cared for and nurtured. But I feel especially blessed to be able to go to all of their t-ball and soccer games, to be there for their swim lessons and to have a constant presence in their lives. The truth is I try to be there for my boys as much as I can, but all of us need help from time to time, whether it’s from friends, family members or the community. There’s no shame in asking for assistance. In fact, the wisest people are those who understand that you can’t do everything unless you surround yourself with great people who can help you do anything.
© 2013 Garcelle Beauvais